Things take a really bad turn – May 2003

We had returned from our travels and broadly I was feeling okay. My sister Catherine came to visit and it’s really her account I have to rely on for much of this chapter. Catherine had arrived first and our friends, Peter and Natalie were also due to visit that weekend. Catherine has told me that I was in bed when she arrived, I do have a vague memory of seeing Peter and Natalie a bit but I think David was left to be the entertainment while I slept.

Things worsened after Peter and Natalie left. Catherine says I started to have seizures which she found very shocking as she’d not witnessed them before. These would have been the awake seizures I was having though I thought these were more under control at this point as I was on Tegretol, an anti-epileptic drug to control them. I’d broadly been lucky in that the medication was effective for me, it isn’t for everyone. So at this stage the fits had been mostly under control. I certainly wasn’t having full fits with loss of consciousness. Usually the fits had settled to being a curious buzzing in my head, I could still move and my hands still worked fine. I could speak. I had learned to try and relax when they came on. Relax and breathe through them. Trying to fight would just prolong them. They were unpleasant but I’d got used to them and was having very few by this stage, but that weekend I had in the region of seven and that was alarming.

I think Catherine called a doctor out but it was a weekend and the on-call doctor who came was disinterested and useless. I think he told me to take more Valium and perhaps more steroid and that was the level of his help. By Sunday I was still in a bad state. Peter and Natalie had left but Catherine remained. Perhaps Catherine is a panicker, I don’t know but if she is I’m glad of it, she almost certainly saved my life. David was finding it hard to deal with, he was not really coming to terms with my illness and tried to pretend these incidents weren’t happening. He was also probably trying to focus on ensuring the kids were okay. I don’t remember seeing them in this state and I wouldn’t want them to have been frightened by it but it would have been strange for them being away from me as well.

Anyway, by Sunday evening, Catherine had had enough and called the on-call doctor again. This time we struck lucky as the lovely Dr. Duthie appeared. I remember being in a lot of pain and he said he was going to have to give me an injection in my arse (he won’t have put it like that!) did I mind? I cared about nothing by then and the shot went in – diamorphine I believe, it’s good stuff, knocked me right out – and I remember no more. Which is probably just as well as the ambulance arrived and I assume some poor sods had to lug me downstairs which won’t have been fun for them, and soon I was being sped off to Addenbrookes.

I have only very hazy memories of being there. At some point they must have given me a large dose of steroid because I did wake up and from my sister’s account, when she called me on Monday I was really quite chirpy again. Unfortunately for me, this was a bank holiday weekend so there was no sign of my consultant, instead I was under the care of a Fellow, a fairly inadequate chap with an inflated sense of his own ability. He decided he had things under control and that I could start my radiotherapy that week as planned. I had told my sister I was fine and there was no need to visit until Tuesday. That’s the last I remember, she tells me that when she arrived on Tuesday I was in a very bad way again.  I was unable to coordinate getting my hand to my mouth to take the tablets I had been given by the nurses earlier. My sister was particularly cross about this as in my attempts I had spilt water all over my bed. No one had noticed.   The Fellow, arrived to check me before I went for my first radiotherapy. He took no notice when Catherine tried to tell him the state I was in was not normal for me.  I was still conscious at this point but barely.  A porter then arrived to take me down for the treatment but questioned whether I seemed well enough.  We went anyway, with me on a trolley and we waited in the corridor for two hours. I was again no longer conscious. At some point the radiologist came and said that they could not treat me in that state. My consultant, Sarah Jeffries then arrived, I assume summoned by the radiologist. I gather she took one look and organised a immediate CT scan which revealed a massive cyst had developed on my tumour. It was this that was causing all the problems, causing intercranial pressure leading to the headaches , sickness and now, essentially, coma.

An emergency operation was organised for that evening. I must have been briefly awake, as I remember asking the anaesthetist if he was single as I was here with my sister who is very attractive. I also asked the surgeon who was to do the operation if he was good at the op, he said he was, well he was hardly likely to say no unless he had a particularly dark sense of humour. Happily that is all I remember, I was clearly high as a kite, God knows what further nonsense I drivelled.

Apparently during that day, David, my Mum and my sister Min arrived. Suffice to say I came through the operation intact and with a shiny new device in my head called an Amoya Reservoir. This could be used to drain fluid out of the cyst when it filled and thus relieve the pressure build up. They would keep me in Addenbrookes for a week or two and then, all being well, the radiotherapy would start. I think it was a relief for everyone. I was now feeling absolutely fine and I think it was kept from me just how bad my situation had been . Min told me later that it had been touch and go whether I would make it through the night but she may have been dramatizing things to make me feel like a hero!

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Trip Cut Short – Mar 2003

David had some time off work and Sue and Din had invited us to join them over Easter, in Wales. This seemed a good opportunity to get away and catch up with friends on the way. Our trip started with friends, Dionne and Mike in Sussex. We had a lovely day but unexpectedly by the end of the day I had to lie down as I had developed a really bad headache. We didn’t think anything of it and the following day I felt fine again so we continued on our way.

Next stop was Haslemere to visit Italo and Rachel. The weather was glorious, really bright sunshine and actual warmth from it. We spent a day at a childrens’ play park/mini zoo and everyone had a lovely time. But that evening I developed a crushing headache, as our hosts prepared supper. This one was worse than before, I was starting to be sick. We diagnosed me with a migraine from the unexpected sun all day. I should have worn a hat we all agreed.

It was during this evening that events took an even worse turn. David kind of flipped out. My memory of the night is still hazy because I was so out of it with the pain of the headache but I dimly recall him going a little bit crazy at me, wanting to know why I was doing this and ruining everything. And then he was just sobbing. Not like David at all, he was like a man possessed. This was the night we all realised the toll everything was taking on David, effectively he was breaking down with the stress of it all. I assume Italo and Rachel calmed him down. I could do nothing except go back to sleep. The next morning I again felt better. David called Italo’s brother, who is a G.P. We agreed we could not continue to Wales with me (and David) so unstable. So we contacted Addenbrookes and arrange to go in for a check, cancelled the Welsh leg of the trip and spent the day relaxing in the garden.

When we went to Addenbrookes we were seen by a registrar on Dr Jeffries team. I think I described my symptoms. He listened and nodded and told me not to worry. “There’s a lot of gastroenteritis about”, he explained. His brother-in-law had been hit with it quite badly. This was a relief, well not his brother-in-law particularly but the news it was probably a bug. He said he would see me again when I started my radiotherapy, in another couple of weeks and we left quite reassured. David, the kids and I next headed to stay with our parents. In the bosom of our families, I had no more nasty turns so we felt the bug theory must be right. We hunkered down ready to meet whatever challenges radiotherapy would bring.

One of our major concerns about the Radiotherapy was the logistics. Addenbrookes wanted me to have it done with them as they had very up to date machines there that would target my tumour more accurately and cause less damage to the surrounding tissue. While this was a good thing, the nature of the radiotherapy I was having meant the treatment was every day for 6 weeks. Each session would last only a few minutes, if that but I would have to get to hospital for it. As a non-driver this was going to be a slight challenge. Fortunately a new train line had just opened up which was direct from Norwich to Cambridge which was a help. It looked like David would get me to Norwich station. I’d take the train for an hour and a quarter then get a bus to the hospital. Around about a two hour trip, or four hour round trip daily for about two minutes of treatment a time. We were all concerned about how this would go, especially as the main side effect of radiotherapy is fatigue.

Never mind. The first thing to be done was to get my mask made. This was undeniably a slightly freaky process and I was once again grateful for my meditation techniques. Essentially, to create a mould for your head, you head has to be covered in some stuff and allowed to set. They were brilliant at this procedure, talked me through it the whole way and I didn’t get panicked. But I was glad I only had to do it once.

We had been talking to my health insurance providers to see if they could offer any help with transport to the hospital. They couldn’t/wouldn’t however they did offer an alternative solution. They would cover the cost of my staying in a Nuffield hospital near Addenbrookes any nights I wanted to during my treatment. Looking at the cost of this versus them paying for me to get a taxi there and back each time, it doesn’t really add up to me. But that was all they offered and as it meant if I wanted to stay over a couple of times in the week to break up the travel then I was grateful for it. Once again I felt grateful at the position I was in of getting this help, through pure luck at being employed by a company who had good benefits. I wonder how others manage and what detriment it has on their prospects of recovery. I just had to get my head down and get on with it. I didn’t like the idea of being away from David, Ned and Posy too much but overall I had to think of the future and ensure I got the maximum out of the treatment. Thank God for Debbie who had agreed to go to 5 days a week from 4. And things were about to take another turn for the different in our lives too.

Happier days – March 2003

There was a gap while we waited for my radiotherapy to get underway and we determined to use the time well. First up on our agenda was to get married. This had a practical element to it, we wanted to ensure David would not encounter any problems should I die. Although he had registered as Ned’s father, at the time of Ned’s birth, we were advised that if we were to get married we’d need to fill in some additional forms to give him proper legal paternal rights. This had all changed by the time Posy was born but we were a bit twitchy about it and wanted to be certain.

There was an additional, more romantic reason too! We’d been planning to get married for ages, since David had proposed on Millenium Eve. That had been a shock, to this day I have no idea whether he had been overcome by booze and bonhomie or whether it was at all planned. We’d been together, broadly, for seven years so it was hardly a snap decision. Anyway, no sooner had we started to make plans and look at venues, I started to be sick and nauseous which turned out not to be nerves or anxiety at this new turn but my body’s reaction to being pregnant with Ned. I wanted to enjoy any wedding party so we decided to delay until after his arrival. But then when he arrived I was so enraptured I thought I’d want have another baby quickly and so not long after, along came Posy.

After Posy arrived we made plans quite rapidly. We had the idea of getting married at Earlham Hall, the law school where David worked, a rather lovely building, surrounded by Earlham Park. We were given permission to use the Hall but had to apply to the Council to be allowed to have a marquee on the lands outside. David, meanwhile, had booked a slot at Norwich registry office for us to be married on the date, 10 years to the day that we had gone on our first date. What an old romantic, you may think! No, he didn’t want to have to remember a new anniversary date. Well, that’s his story anyway…. The idea was we wouldn’t tell anyone then have a full celebration at a summer do, such excitement! Ah, the best laid plans. The day we received notification from the council that we could indeed have permission for the marquee, was the day I collapsed with my first fit.

So the big exciting party plans had been put on hold but the actual legalities seemed wise to get on to. We asked Debbie and my sister to be witnesses, we were aiming to keep everything as low key as possible and had not really told anyone else, not even our parents. My sister could make it but was literally heading to Australia the following day so would have to bring her two teenage children, which was fine. Otherwise this was planned as an entirely fuss free event. In the end, my sister convinced me to buy a new skirt and top and I cracked and ordered a bouquet and buttonholes. Catherine and her kids, wore jeans. It was a curious little group that turned up at the registry office.

Norwich registry office is a rather beautiful building with a rather vaulted, incredibly echoey waiting area. I remember this in particular because on arrival, Posy decided to wake up and start screaming at the top of her lungs. I’ve no idea why, Posy was normally an incredible peaceful, sleepy baby, most content when left to slumber. Perhaps she felt the need to make a comment on the impending nuptials in her own inimitable style. My nephew, Theo had volunteered to film the little ceremony and amused himself by practising on this noisy tableaux while we waited and tried to pacify Posy.

And then as we were all flustered and flapping, our turn came and Posy magically went quiet. Then the little service started and David and I decided to take up where Posy had left off. I’m not quite sure how we got through it. I have a vague recollection of the registrar, in slightly kinder terms, telling us to pull ourselves together. But it was like a released tidal wave. I get emotional at weddings at the best of times but as words like, “in sickness and health” suddenly had such resonance, David and I were in pieces. I don’t know how the others were but the two of us sobbed our way through it. We got there but it wasn’t pretty.

Afterwards, we had some photos and then went for lunch at a pub. Theo, who had been assiduously trying to capture some of these sorry carry ons was playing around with the video camera when he realised he’d accidentally ersased all the footage. To be honest it was probably just as well.

Short But Not So Sweet – Feb 2003

For the meeting with Dr Brada I was well prepared.  I was seeing him with my friend, Sue, who had been with me during my initial collapse and she had been far from idle in the interim.  She had undertaken loads of research, so we could really quiz Dr. Brada as far as possible on any possible options available.  The internet was still in its youth but nonetheless Sue had trawled through mountains of pages and we had lined up questions on things that we had come across that we were hopeful might benefit me.  Sue is a solicitor, incredibly articulate and not easily intimidated so I was confident we would find out whatever there was to discover.  

The appointment was at The Royal Marsden, I should point out this was a private appointment; one of the many benefits from my employer was private medical cover.  During this period, it proved invaluable as it meant I could seek further opinions without worry about the cost.  It was also providing me with counselling for which I was very grateful. I fundamentally disapprove of private medical care but I’m afraid my principals had shot out of the window and were rapidly disappearing from view in the light of my current predicament.

So, Sue and I met up in London and trotted off to the Marsden to see what was in store this time. I can’t remember what I was feeling as we headed in.  Inevitably I would have been hopeful of some new exciting news.  I can’t help myself, it’s my nature.  For me, hope springs eternal.  I’m not sure whether this is a bad thing or not.  It does mean I am regularly disappointed I suppose, as my hopes aren’t necessarily met.  But I can’t change the way my head is wired any more than someone with the opposite outlook can.  I have tried to change it.  I’ve tried heading to appointments with a voice of doom playing, almost as an insurance, as though if I’m thinking the worst, the worst can’t happen.  But that is a more recent trick (spoiler alert it makes not a sod of difference to what you will be told, that won’t change whatever head voodoo you try) back in those days I still bounced in expecting the best.

My memory of Dr Brada is of a neat, dapper man, which makes him sound rather like Hercule Poirot.  And he was perfectly charming.  Charming but not inclined to entertain our hopes of an exciting, hitherto unexplored option.   Each question we asked about was adeptly batted away.  Gamma Ray knife? Not suitable for my tumour.  Stereotactic radio surgery?Not for me.  Various other treatments were offered by us, all were dismissed, kindly but firmly.  He had no truck with any of our nutritional plans.  They were very firmly dismissed.  In fact, the entire meeting had the air of dismissing some naughty but well-meaning students.  “Go and have your radiotherapy treatment.”  I was told. “Don’t delay, get on with it”.

And so I did.  Sometime later, when everything was turned upside down I felt quite a strong degree of anger towards Dr. Brada but I think I have finally let that go.  He wasn’t really to blame as he was not a surgical specialist I don’t think; his field was very much radiotherapy methods and on those I assume the information he gave was correct.  And if he did fail to pass on information that might have helped me, I can’t imagine it would have been from malice.  I imagine he may have assumed the neurosurgeons had gone through all surgery options before deciding my tumour was inoperable,so no, my ire is not really directed at him!

I returned to lovely, warm Dr. Jeffries, ready to start the process of radiotherapy.  The treatment would be done at Addenbrookes as their equipment was superior in terms of how well directed it was and would be less likely to cause damage to the surrounding brain.  I would be fitted for a mask and then the treatment itself would be every day for six weeks.  This was potentially difficult given I live nearly two hours travel time from Cambridge, but the train line was just opening between Norwich and Cambridge so we thought we’d be able to manage.  I think Addenbrookes said they’d schedule me in to allow for me to travel there.  The treatment, once there, would only take a matter of minutes.  There was a further small but surprisingly significant blow to be dealt.  The radiotherapy would cause me to lose my hair, some of the loss would be permanent.  I was shocked to discover tears pouring down my face.  Why did I care about a stupid thing like hair loss? I don’t think I’m a terribly vain person, I’m certainly not highly groomed; if I get out of bed, manage to shower, dress and whack a bit of lippy on that’s a good day.  But of course, it’s nothing to do with vanity though I’m not sure I understood that then.  It’s the visible sign to the rest of the world and most importantly to yourself. The visible, inescapable sign that something’s wrong with you.  That however much you may try to pretend that nothing’s changed, that life is still normal, It really isn’t.

Preparing to Fight – Feb 2003

If it sounds thus far as though life was simply a succession of medical visits with nothing in between, then that’s not so far from the truth.  Life was continuing, broadly normally.  I had suffered no further full seizures thanks to the new medication.  Instead I was experiencing what the doctors described as focal seizures.  These did not involve a complete loss of consciousness and in fact I was awake throughout them.  But it was a most bizarre, discombobulating sensation.  I would feel a buzzing type sensation in my head, my left side felt numb though I could still talk and move.  They didn’t cause a major problem but were an unpleasant reminder that however normal I may still be otherwise, there was something bad happening in my head.  Some were more severe than others, I remember one lasted nearly 20 minutes and the longer ones scared me as there was no knowing it would come to an end.  From an entirely selfish point of view they were worse that the full seizures because I was aware of the whole thing.  I was very frightened about having them when I was alone with the kids but after a long discussion with my G.P. was reassured that I was still a safe parent.  I learned to stay calm and breathe until they passed.

Between visits we undertook as much research as we could.  We were trying to find out as much as we could about my condition, using all the tools at our disposal.  Friends sent us books, newspaper cuttings, information, whatever they felt may be useful.  And some were particularly helpful.  Lance Armstrong’s’s It’s Not About the Bike was a hopeful read with his tale of overcoming testicular cancer including the excision of a few brain lesions along the way.  A most upbeat tale and well before we all found out what a cheating, lying bastard he was so that was pleasingly hopeful.  Another friend sent a book on meditation which I loved and I remain convinced to this day that the mind is an incredible, under-utilised tool which has the capability of all kinds of amazing feats.  Sadly I‘ve never really mastered the art of meditation. Though I start with the best intentions I inevitably drop off to sleep within moments but it is an amazingly useful tool for helping to relax and stay calm in the often-stressful medical situations such as scans.

I became fixated on one book in particular; Everything you ever wanted to know about cancer but were afraid to ask.  I gave away my copy some years ago and try as I might I can’t remember the name of the author.  But for a year or so this book was my bible, comfort blanket, freedom fighter source material.  Its author was the father of a daughter who happened to have a brain tumour.  What luck!  A book, not only about cancer but about my sort of cancer.  Hers was a more aggressive tumour than mine but he’d been keeping her going, against the odds for some time now.  He did advocate surgery as first line defence which was a bit of a problem for me but he also had loads of other stuff up his sleeve and, crucially he’d gone through radiotherapy with her and had tips on what to expect and how to help.  Mostly though this book offered a lot of information on ways of using nutrition as a line of defence.  With the encouragement of my sister, Catherine, I determined to give it my best shot though I baulked at some of the more extreme approaches he was advocating.  Coffee enema anyone?  But I started to modify my diet in all the ways I could, I added in zinc and selenium and various other exotic nutrients to give myself a fighting chance.  I also started to try some yoga.  Knowing now, what I didn’t then, I still feel the poor chap was ahead of his time.  I tried Quinoa on his recommendation a good 10 year before it became a staple of the Waitrose shopper.  I found it disgusting then and am no fonder now but what it did do was give me an illusion, a thin veneer of control over my own destiny.  To be shaken if not entirely shattered by my next medical encounter, with Dr Brada.

Good Cop? – Feb 2003

David and I trek over to Addenbrookes following a couple of weeks of relative misery.  It’s hard to wallow in despair when you are caring for a lively toddler and a growing baby.  But when I look at their sweet faces, faces I won’t now see develop into children, I want to howl with rage.  Why me? What have I done to deserve this?  Is there something I did or shouldn’t have done?  The doctors have all said not but there must be some reason why I’ve got this thing in my head.  And while having the children to care for keeps the worst of the rage and despair at bay, every time I look at them I’m reminded that my children will grow up and won’t have any memories of me, won’t know the sort of person I am.  They’ll just have pictures to look at, of them with a stranger.  All I want to do is cry.  But it’s hard to cry when I have to focus on their needs.  They are oblivious to our pain.  And we want to keep it that way.  I’m incredibly fortunate having Debbie on hand to ensure life goes on for normal for them while we cope with all the bad news.

We have an appointment in Oncology, to see Dr. Sarah Jeffries.  Dr Jeffries is a warm individual, about as far removed from Dr. Death (for that is how we have come to refer to him) as can be imagined.  Dr Jeffries is accompanied by a nurse, Kate and they are to be my team.  We discussed the scans and they reiterated that surgery was not an option as the tumour, which was located in my right parietal lobe, was too close to my motor function, any attempt to remove it would run the risk of severe damage to my left leg.  I explained I didn’t mind losing the use of my leg if it got rid of the tumour.  They patiently explained that wouldn’t work as I’d lose quality of life and there was no guarantee the tumour wouldn’t return and that tumours don’t necessarily grow back into the space created by the removal.

This did not mean, however, that there was nothing more to be done.  They explained they could use radiotherapy and that they had the most up to date equipment to do it at Addenbrookes.  They’d machines that could really target the tumour with minimal damage to non-tumour brain cells.  It would involve six weeks of daily treatment at Addenbrookes but, radiotherapy, when successful, had the potential to hold back the tumour for up to 10 years.  10 years!  This seemed a lifetime!  Long enough for cures to be developed, long enough for my babies to grow, long enough for them to get to know me.  Dr. Jeffries said they would start things in motion but in the meantime, if we wanted a second opinion, she suggested Dr. Brada, at the Royal Marsden.

At the end of this meeting we were asked if we’d give some feedback to another member of staff.  I don’t remember their role or exactly why they wanted to talk to us but the gist of it was that they had gathered the pervious meeting with the neurosurgeon had not gone terribly well and could they get our feedback.  I’m not sure we knew what to say, I’m pretty sure we didn’t mention we referred to him as Dr. Death – and still do, to this day.  In retrospect I wonder if there is a good way to tell someone they’re fucked?  I wouldn’t want to do it.  Perhaps it had been his first time.  I did point out it would have been useful to have the meeting we’d just had immediately after the one giving the bad news, to give some glimpse of the hope I now felt.  I think they nodded, cited logistical difficulties but ‘took it on board’, or something to that effect.  And perhaps they were right to give us time to really feel the full assault of the bad news before dangling a carrot.  I certainly left that day with more of a spring in my step.  Indeed I felt I’d won the jackpot.  10 years – something I could work with.

An Abnormality – Jan 2003

 

I stayed in the N&N hospital for the next few days having tests.  Only 5 short months earlier I had given birth to Posy here.  Well not quite in here, rather she was delivered in the car park.  Posy likes to do things her own way.  And talking of Posy, I was having to be separated from her for the first time for any length of time. What would they do for milk?  I’d been breastfeeding to that point, and expressing the milk she then refused to take in a bottle.  Well no longer.  I was told she couldn’t have my breast milk any more because of the anti-epilepsy medication they were putting me on. I was desperately worried, what would they do for her?  She was starting to have some solid food but a baby of that age should be having most of their nutrition through milk.  I was also desperately saddened by it.  I liked breast feeding.  I had fed Ned till he was nearly a year and enjoyed the closeness it offered.  Given the battles we’d had to get her to take any milk from a bottle I was not confident she’d get what she needed.  In the event, that was something, at least, I needn’t have worried about.  Remember all those people who insist on lecturing you about how your “fussy eater”, “veg refuser”, “bottle denying” offspring won’t starve themselves if you just persevere?  Aggravatingly it turns out they’re right.  Posy didn’t even put up a fight, just smiled sweetly and glugged the milk down as though all those months screaming when anyone tried to bond with her by giving her a bottle had simply been banter.  Like I said, Posy does things her own way.

I’d only ever spent nights in hospital previously when I had my children so this was a new realm.  There are screens by your bed with telephones, it’s really rather pleasant if you’re not actually feeling in any way ill, which I wasn’t.  I’m desperately trying to remember how I did feel, back then?  I don’t think I felt worried about myself.  I think I was anxious about work but I used the bedside phone to call my colleague and friend Charlotte.   “I’m in hospital!” I said.  “I know, I can tell by the number”, she replied. (She had been a healthcare researcher).  I filled her in and she reassured me that all was covered.  Then I started having my tests.  I really don’t remember much about it now.  There was an EEG, a CAT scan and an MRI.  I don’t remember how many days it was I was there.  But I do remember the doctors coming to speak to me about what the tests had shown.
“There’s an abnormality on your brain”.  These were by far the most devastating words I’d ever, have ever, heard.  I don’t remember anything else from that conversation, I can’t even remember if anyone was with me, David or my sister, Catherine, though I assume they didn’t tell me when I was alone.   Now it was all real, definitely happening and I had no idea what to do.  On my brain.  An abnormality.  What did that even mean?  Was I now one of the unlucky 0.1%?  There were no answers forthcoming.  I was told that I’d need to be sent to Addenbrookes in Cambridge for a biopsy but that in the meantime I’d be able to go home.  I have a memory of another kindly, well-meaning young doctor telling me not to worry, if it was a grade 4 I’d be being “blue-lighted” to Addenbrookes.   I had no idea what any of these words meant but I don’t think I took comfort from them.

I also remember, when my sister was with me there one day, she asked a nurse if I was allowed to be taken outside for a cigarette.  “Of course you can” she said in a compassionate and was it perhaps a somewhat pitying way?  She thinks I’m already done for, I thought.  I went for the cigarette but resolved to stop completely.  I didn’t know what was coming but I was going to try my hardest to meet it fighting.

Once home I went to my local G.P. practice seeking clarification.  My usual GP, yes I have a usual GP we’re a small rural community and our practise is fabulous, was away so I spoke to another.  He was kindly, tried to help and explained the biopsy would be looking to establish in more detail whether the abnormality found was benign or “something more sinister”.  So all I could do was wait, for the biopsy at Addenbrookes.  Anyone who has experienced unexplained illness will tell you, the waiting is always the worst part. But I’m not sure for me, that that stage was too bad.  I’m not one of life’s worriers and I was back home, with a toddler and a baby so life was fairly lively. And I felt, still, perfectly well.  The Tegretol medication I was taking had stopped the seizures so they weren’t bothering me.  I wasn’t allowed to drive but I lived in a small town with everything on hand so that didn’t then cause a problem.  There was nothing for it but to wait.